We don’t do “off the shelf” speeches. A wedding is a once in a life-time experience for the bride and groom and they deserve better. By gathering a little information about YOUR wedding, we will write something that is specifically about your friends/family and which celebrates this special day appropriately for the happy couple.
There is more to a Best Man speech than a couple of bar room jokes and unnecessary references as to what went on at the stag party. Humour can be a component but not if it genuinely embarrasses the bride OR groom. The Best Man’s role is to help the celebrations to flow smoothly, not to start a fight!
The content of a wedding speech is very important and that is why we research the occasion and the guests via yourself. In addition, if you require any advice or assistance in the actual delivery of the speech, we can certainly assist with that. For example, a pause at just the right time will make a joke work or create just the right effect. Sometimes there is a right time to speed up or slow down in order to gain maximum impact. Very few people can truly say they love their jobs, but we certainly do. When we write a memorable wedding speech, we know it will be remembered by all the gathering for the rest of their lives.
Although we usually write the speech from start to finish, some people prefer to write a draft and let us build on that. Every wedding is different and once we understand your particular situation, we can plan together what is going to be best for you. The list below is a quick check list of items to consider when putting a wedding speech together:
1. You have to avoid ‘listing’. With so many people to thank and mention, if you’re not careful, the speech can become deathly dull and lengthy.
2. At the same time, this may be the only opportunity you’ll ever have to thank your parents for all they’ve done; siblings for all their support; the in-laws for being so welcoming; your best man for his friendship; the bridesmaids and so the list goes on, not forgetting to mention the wife herself.
3. As with every speech there’s a balance to be found. There’s also a real knack to saying a lot in a few words. The best groom speeches share these qualities:-
i. They come from the heart but are not too gushing.
ii. They thank the right people in the right amount of words.
iii. They flow seamlessly from one topic to the next, so it does not come as a list.
iv. They contain the right balance between humour and sincerity.
v. They don’t last much longer than ten minutes (max)
1. You need to be funny without pushing things too far or causing any
2. Find the right balance between demonstrating why you value your friends whilst having an appropriate level of fun at his expense.
3. Be ‘appropriate’. Considering who else is there when making jokes.
4. Avoid running through a list of unrelated stories.
5. Know what to say about the bride
6. Keep it short enough
Father of the Bride
1. The balance between the time you spend talking about your daughter and everyone else.
2. The balance between being light-hearted and more emotional.
3. The balance between giving the guests a real feel for what makes you so proud of your daughter whilst avoiding the speech becoming a hagiography (or extended CV)
4. The balance between being generous with your thanks and welcomes without speaking for much too long
Every father and daughter have a different relationship. So do every father and his prospective son-in-law. Every wedding is different. No two families are the same.
Traditionally it is the bride’s father, husband to be and best man who speak at your wedding but more and more brides are giving speeches as well.
1. Don’t leave it to the last minute – The bride’s father and the groom will typically plan speeches well in advance and a bride’s speech should have equal priority.
2. Timing – don’t have a bride’s speech as an add-on at the end.
3. Most wedding dresses don’t leave much room for your notes so ask a Bridesmaid or friend in advance to hold onto your speech until you need it.
4. ‘Don’t repeat what other speakers have already said; check in advance.
5. Be careful not to offend your new family.
6. End with a toast.
Maid of Honour
The Maid of Honour (or Bridesmaid) speech is becoming an increasingly regular feature of a wedding. The Maid of Honour faces a very different set of challenges to the more traditional roles of father of the bride and best man. She has no set time to speak, toast to give or agenda to meet but this give opportunities for originality.
1. Speak last. The guests will be more by then relaxed with all usual formalities covered. With alcohol having been consumes, you can have some fun now.
2. Focus on the bride but don’t repeat what may have already been said. Paint a picture of the Bride from your perspective.
3. Don’t tell irrelevant stories or spend time thanking people already covered in previous speeches. Don’t give a life history of the bride either.
4. Keep it light. Your speech is part of the entertainment, not the service.
Father of the Groom
Traditionally the father of the groom would only speak as a stand-in the bride’s father but in the modern era, it is typically for the groom’s father to speak as well.
1. Avoid repetition. All key guests will already have been welcomed in previous speeches.
2. Have a clear plan to be 1) relevant 2) original and 3) appropriate.
3. Consider what balance you are seeking between humour and sincerity.
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